Our "March of Inspiring Mums" interview series celebrates women who are doing some amazing things, whether through business, a campaign or just being fabulous! - hope you enjoy the "March of Inspiring Mums" series!
Our latest interview is with Ceri Gillett, mum to a 3 year old son and owner of The Business Mother.
Today Ceri shares how she had to let go of perfectionism and why by choosing to follow her dream, using her experience and passion plus framing her own version of success (rather than someone's else) has led her to living the life that she wants. She also tells us what activity she does to feel like Beyonce!
Ceri lives in New Inn, South East Wales. She says "I’ve lived in Wales all my life, even when my career took me to London I’d only stay away a few days before returning. I can’t imagine ever living somewhere else"
Tell me a little about yourself and how you got into the job you’re now doing?
I’m a business coach by profession. I worked with financial institutions in my pre-mum life. I set up a business in partnership with my other half, James, just after I had my son and I started documenting a lot of it via social media and a blog, this developed a personal brand for me. Lot’s of ladies would ask me about running the business...how I managed? how you set up? social media marketing?
So, I thought there may be a way to add some coaching back into my life - so Business Mother Club was born but I wanted it to be different to a lot of the stuff out there in the entrepreneurial space. Over 90% of our business building information and community is actually all free and always will be. I have a crazy goal to reach 10,000 women in 2019.
Ceri at a recent mums in business meet up
Tell me one interesting fact about you?
I have a knack for retaining song lyrics, particularly rap or hip hop song lyrics. I can often be witnessed miming to myself late at night on instagram stories. I wish I’d have learned this earlier though because revising would have been a breeze had I known this fact about myself.
Please can you share 3 tips for managing the juggle of motherhood, life and business?
1) Done is always better than perfect. I used to be a massive perfectionist and it was something I had to learn to let go of to drive myself forward. I thought I had ditched all my perfectionist tendencies but there is something about motherhood and maybe how we as a society perceive mothers that brought it all back up for me, I have to work hard to keep it in check. But done is always better than perfect. Just get it done, the washing, the living room, that piece of work, writing that book, starting that business. Just do...don’t perfect because you’ll never get there (repeat this to yourself ten times daily)
2) Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need in order to get stuff done - Oh how I find this one difficult. I think if you are around my age you may have grown up in a similar society to me. This age where women could have it all. While this is totally brilliant, no one taught us how to delegate. no one told us we could have it all but we should not be doing it all alone! I really struggle to ask for help, in anything. Work, life, motherhood. It’s a superwoman complex that I see so many of my peers fall into. I’ve had to learn that it is perfectly OK to ask for what I need in order to make my life work, be that cleaning help, childcare, ten minutes on my own. It’s a battle but try to always communicate what you need!
3) Do you. This is your life, the only one you will ever get. Do not live someone else view of success or happiness. Stand confident in what you want, what makes you happy and go for that instead. The opportunities in that space are endless.
Teri (far right) hosting a mums in business networking meeting
What’s the best piece of advice you could give a new mum?
You can’t do it all and no one wants you to try to. Motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks. It’s a massive, massive change (understatement of the year) and I was genuinely thinking “Why did no one tell me it would be this hard”. You can’t do it all. Face that one head on. You can’t. You have to fill your own cup, you have to get help where you can get it.
Colour can make a real difference to our mood - what’s your favourite colour? And how does it make you feel when you wear it?
Green. I love green. A colourist told me to wear it years ago and I couldn’t believe what a difference it makes. I am from a family of red heads so apparently it suits my tone. It also has a lot of links to financial abundance apparently, so that’s also a good thing as I spend a lot of my waking hours teaching women how to make more money.
What’s your favourite activity to do with your children?
I’m a country girl for life. I need to be near greenery a lot so we mostly just wander. I’m really lucky that we can walk straight out into the countryside from our back garden so we do just that. We have the Wye Valley and Tintern Abbey on our doorstep and Wales is not short of breathtaking places to go. My little one loves to roam free...well, that or the dreaded soft play!
What do you like to do for some me-time?
Hip Hop dance classes. I have a very active brain and dance is the only thing I’ve found that shuts my brain down. All I have to think of is the next step. I wanted to find a way of doing regular exercise that I’d love and this fits the bill. It’s bliss plus, feeling like Beyonce a few hours each week does the soul good.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Ceri. Your journey is not only inspiring but I also love your goal of helping so many other women this year. You have also shared some great tips on juggling life and being successful...I think it's so important to live the life you want to rather than through other people's expectations - a great lesson!
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